BDSM vrs Rape Fantasy

[Sprayman]

Moth,
I stand corrected.
And what a lucky girl, since she won't have to wash them now!  :D

[Quixote]

You have both made reasonable points, but I prefer the original image she evoked.

[Sprayman]

You have both made reasonable points, but I prefer the original image she evoked.

But - but - but - she isn't wearing any in the picture.
And having them stuffed in her mouth does not count as wearing them - - - I checked!

[Quixote]

Actually, branching off on a tangent, does anyone else share my deep love of being out somewhere public with a girl and whispering total filth in her ear and making her need to change her panties desperately when you are somewhere (and, for preference, she is wearing something) that makes doing anything about it completely impossible?

That's one of my favourite mindfucks.

Admittedly, usually only until she starts whispering back in my ear and I have to pretend that I need to bend over and tie my shoe-laces for a half-hour, at which point it tends to seem like it wasn't such a great idea, but still.

[Sprayman]

Admittedly, usually only until she starts whispering back in my ear and I have to pretend that I need to bend over and tie my shoe-laces for a half-hour, at which point it tends to seem like it wasn't such a great idea, but still.

Therein lies one real advantage of being my age. At 60 plus, it takes more than a few adjectives or adverbs to get my motor running!
Of course, if she sticks her tongue in my ear while whispering, all bets are off - - -
 ;)

[Emma]

Admittedly, usually only until she starts whispering back in my ear and I have to pretend that I need to bend over and tie my shoe-laces for a half-hour, at which point it tends to seem like it wasn't such a great idea, but still.

Therein lies one real advantage of being my age. At 60 plus, it takes more than a few adjectives or adverbs to get my motor running!
Of course, if she sticks her tongue in my ear while whispering, all bets are off - - -
 ;)

lol  :P

[gogzilla]

its quite an old thread and has gone of topic since the start but i do like the original post cos whilst for alot of u and bdsm and rape fantasy is one in the same i've always found them seperate. the fact i fantasise about raping someone doesn't instinctively make me think whilst i'm at it lets whip her till she bleeds or bruises.

And as for which is more extreme i wouldn't say either is any better than the other. there extreme cos we like them that way.what i don't get is why people would be like oh no bdsm is much worse than a rape fantasy and vice versa you;d think they might take a bit of pride in saying oh no we're much worse than u.

[Emma]

its quite an old thread and has gone of topic since the start but i do like the original post cos whilst for alot of u and bdsm and rape fantasy is one in the same i've always found them seperate. the fact i fantasise about raping someone doesn't instinctively make me think whilst i'm at it lets whip her till she bleeds or bruises.
I think that bdsm and rape fantasy are quite seperate.. it just so happens that im a masochist that loves/needs to be forced so Alebeard and I mix it all up.  I do however make a distinct separation in the two.  Alebeard and I play with other people at parties and such and it would NOT do if Ale was doing a whipping scene with some girl and suddenly started raping her...prolly get us blacklisted or worse.. hehe .. I also negotiate very specific scenes with some people and there are a few that just know they can do what ever they like... a few special ones.    Thats actually what I like about BDSM is that you can experience any one of the many things there are... so many flavors to taste and experience.  Some people get pissy at certain parties we have attended because Ale and I sometimes fuck at parties. Some folks like to say, 'oh, bdsm and sex are separate!' Weenies...  We like that.  BDSM for us is quite sexually charged and its all fluid.. no pun intended..  the force, the pain, the control, etc...

And as for which is more extreme i wouldn't say either is any better than the other. there extreme cos we like them that way.what i don't get is why people would be like oh no bdsm is much worse than a rape fantasy and vice versa you;d think they might take a bit of pride in saying oh no we're much worse than u.

I think that rape is a bit of a hot potato in some bdsm circles and is also a hot button for many people that may have actually had a real rape experience that really makes it impossible for them to understand our need or pull toward force play.   I think there are also just a lot of weenies in every community that want to act like they are the 'big daddy or mamma of BDSM and can define it for all.  Those are the ones Alebeard loves to torment and upset..  Everything is subjective and is as extreme or as blase as the one doing it perceives it to be at the time they are experiencing it.   Things that used to be on my 'red' list are now just things that make me giggly or wet or 'so yesterday'     Just my two cents.

[Quixote]

No matter how cool the subculture, there will always be obnoxious dicks trying to put themselves in charge of it.

Quixote's law.

[mothbrad]

Luckily, none of those folk have turned up here.

[Quixote]

Ale and Emma have provided us with this lovely garden, which is magical in many ways.

[Emma]

NO assholes allowed.  hehe   unless they belong  to (are part of) pretty girls.

[Quixote]

That should be 'are part of' pretty girls.

They belong to whoever has the keys to the handcuffs.

[Emma]

I stand corrected..... I likely need more correction tho.

[Quixote]

Always.  *rummages in bag*