Dominate for a Day

[kimbra_ailis]

Personally I tend to lean towards being a swtich with a preference of not being the Dom of the relationship. I am not really submissive but I enjoy someone in control of me. Maybe I simply dont know how to be Domme, maybe I dont have what it takes to be Domme. I do know that in 90% of the time, a submissive male causes me to feel this need to hurt him.


Anyway.... I recently read a story about a female sub that her Domme sent her a male sub that she was to Domme for a week. It seemed like a strange request but being an order from her Domme she obeyed. Not sure what to do, she had him clean house as she normally did, crawl around, ect, simple things. 



I think I could someday be a good Domme. But only up to a certain point. I imagine I could take some sadistic pleasure from being the sufferee instead of the sufferer for a change, but as a Dom I wouldn't know what to 'do' next. I'd be anxious about being rubbish, lacking ideas and boring my 'sub'. I don't want to be adored or wield control - what do I do then?

I find that I come to the same delima when it comes to being Domme in an rp. One can only use the whip for so long before its not really fun or entertaining anymore. I am not into the whole boot licking thing, even cleaning house on hands and knees seems generic to me, or most of the sexual torture devices.


If you're a non-switching sub like me, (and imagining some mythical sub conjured up for your use):

Which aspects of being a Dom/me would you like to try / do you think you'd be good at?
Which do you think you'd hate / be rubbish at?
What's the hardest thing, in your opinion, about being a Dom/me?



Doms would you switch postions with your Sub for a day? Or be interested in a getting her a sub of her own to play with for a day?

[mothbrad]

I'm a non-switching sadist, so my vote doesn't really count, but I did find it entertaining that the first thing that entered that female sub's mind was to get the guy to do housework 

[Eggert]

AS I'm not a switch and surely can't be a sub for a day.
I surely would have a dilemma, if my sub's a switch.
I had a sub who's switch and she's allowed to have subs. But it didn't work to good. It can be annoying to go the club, with some wild plans for "fun" and then some male subs see her as a prey. That really could destroy the evening for us.
Then we tried to make some days where she could be a dom and some days whre she's sub. But it still didn't work.
But I think I could accept her being dom towards other girls.
Else I do my best not to get involved with switches, it's all to difficult.

[Sprayman]

"Doms would you switch postions with your Sub for a day? Or be interested in a getting her a sub of her own to play with for a day?"

No!

I'm A sadist first and a Dom second. I have no desire to be dominated - ever. Why would I want to confuse my sub by making her something she isn't?

I have met several persons who think they are switches but so far all of them, except one, lean rather heavily toward either Dom - or sub. I have only met one person - a man - who seemed comfortable in both rolls, and he was bisexual. He would allow himself be topped by men only and topped only women. He was a switch, but only with specific genders.

[Dr_BuzzCzar]

Doms would you switch postions with your Sub for a day? Or be interested in a getting her a sub of her own to play with for a day?

Nope, have absolutely no interest in pretending to be something I'm not. As to getting her a sub to play with, we tried having my J serve as domme to female and male subs. The male sub thing didn't work and the female did. My 5 cent analysis is she saw males as dominant figures as a general rule and females as submissive. Add in her bisexuality and voila, she was comfortable abusing femmes but uncomfortable with males. We regularly added an additional femme to our play time for added spice.  Fuck it is hard writing of her in a past tense but she's gone.

[Sprayman]

Doms would you switch postions with your Sub for a day? Or be interested in a getting her a sub of her own to play with for a day?

Fuck it is hard writing of her in a past tense but she's gone.

My sincere sympathy Doc. I've been single/unattached for16 years, due to divorce. I still find myself speaking of my ex in the present tense once in a while.

[Violet]

Could I see myself switching and being a sub?  Hell no.  I like to cause pain, being in pain does nothing for me.  I like to be in control of the woman, I could not switch with her, it's not something that interests me.
If she wanted someone to abuse, then I'd want to get another female sub for us both to domme.
I'm not particularly turned on by the thought of a male sub but if it was something he wanted then I wouldn't be opposed to the idea.  But I would prefer co-domming a female sub with him.
And as for submitting to a male dom?  Hell no.  Like I said - I like to cause pain, not be in pain.

[Quixote]

Violet, I find it interesting that you associate Subbing primarily with being in pain.  But I find it even more interesting that you'd like to co-domme an f-sub with an m-dom.  You bring the bi-sub and I'll bring my toys.  ;-P

Spray, interestingly I too have only ever known one true switch.  Also a bisexual male.  But he didn't associate either role with just one gender.  I think he was just greedy.

But, anyway, my two cents:

I am, as you may have noticed, a Dom and a sadist.  But I have no problem switching.  I'd like to.  I've subbed a little.  I wasn't very good at it.  But then the girl was more of a Sub, and I don't think she really knew what she was doing either.  I would love to try it with a Domme who knew what she was doing.  Maybe I'd hate it.  Only one way to find out ...

As for letting my Sub dominate someone else, my only thought is that it would be fun to watch.  M or f.  Either way.

But, I think it is worth noting that my notion of my ideal relationship with a Sub is not 24/7 lifestyle slavery.  I've never really liked the look of that.

[Dr_BuzzCzar]

Doms would you switch postions with your Sub for a day? Or be interested in a getting her a sub of her own to play with for a day?

Fuck it is hard writing of her in a past tense but she's gone.

My sincere sympathy Doc. I've been single/unattached for16 years, due to divorce. I still find myself speaking of my ex in the present tense once in a while.

I should have been clearer or I should have kept my mouth (fingers?) shut. My lovely J died 4/2/09 after a three year battle with leukemia.

[Sprayman]

Again Doc, my sincere sympathies. I knew from another post of some time ago that she was ill. I did not know when she passed, but I thought that was what you meant. I wish there was something I could say that would help, but there isn't. Time will make it a little easier, but the emptiness is always there.

[Quixote]

I would also like to offer my sympathies.

[Violet]

As would I.

[Eggert]

I feel so sorry for you. It's never nice when love ones pass away. I wish you the best

[kimbra_ailis]

I am, as you may have noticed, a Dom and a sadist.  But I have no problem switching.  I'd like to.  I've subbed a little.  I wasn't very good at it.  But then the girl was more of a Sub, and I don't think she really knew what she was doing either.  I would love to try it with a Domme who knew what she was doing.  Maybe I'd hate it.  Only one way to find out ...

That is interesting.... of all the guys that say no... to find one that would say yes....

kimbra is amused.....

[Eggert]

In a time of my life, that I don't like to remember and even less to talk about. I was sub/slave and I've promised myself never again